Mom guilt? Not enough time? To tired? Let’s face it, whatever the reason is… self-care can be tough for a mom!
I was fortunate enough to join this months series of Let’s Talk Motherhood to connect, encourage, share and relate with other moms! In this series, we are going to be focusing on self-care as a mom. You will be able to hear different perspectives of each of the moms participating in this months series! There are lots of frequently asked questions that we are going to cover and discuss on this topic and I encourage you to go through the names at the end of this post of the bloggers sharing their perspectives and opinions on self-care as a mom!
1. Has your view on self-care changed since becoming a parent? If yes, How?
My view on self-care has definitely changed ever since I became a parent. It is so important for mothers to take care of themselves without going to the extreme. It helps you feel better about yourself throughout the day. You feel better as a mom when you take care of things. It does take time but when you feel better about yourself you are more likely to be a better parent in a small measure. You feel happy and when you feel happy it shows through your actions and helps your kids to be happy too. They can sense the negative energy around you when you feel crappy about yourself. As children get older they also notice when you are taking care of yourself or not and will eventually do the same. But let me also stress this, there is definitely a line that should not be crossed of how much you do spend time on yourself. Taking care of yourself is good but knowing when to draw the line without going to the extreme is important because any time you go to the extreme it becomes a vice.
2. How do you make time for self-care as a mom?
It can be difficult to make time for self – care, sometimes seems impossible! When you have small children it’s more of a challenge. It’s imperative that a mom learns how to become adaptable. You never know what’s going to happen in your daily routine with small children. Some moms spend a lot of time training to have quiet time where their kids are required to entertain themselves with toys or books. Which it doesn’t have to be a long time, It could be a half hour to maybe an hour! There are times where you don’t have enough time to get ready which is totally fine! But that’s where adaptability comes into play and is very important. Sometimes while my son Vincent is taking a nap I would use that time to put on a little makeup, or put on some cute clothes, or do small workout routines outside! And even if your little one doesn’t nap well you can sit them in any kind of baby swing, or jumper and let them learn to play by themselves for just a little bit.
3. What are your favorite ways to practice self-care?
Some of my favorite ways to practice self-care would be to make the effort to do small workouts in the morning each day! When I workout I would just take my baby VTech monitor with me and watch him as I took the time to exercise. But most importantly, I always felt better about myself by putting on some makeup and dressing in cute clothes. I always have noticed that when I do that, my day is always a lot better! Self-care doesn’t mean just making you look good, It’s also taking care of your body. I like to make myself healthy snacks throughout the day so my body feels better in that way. Eating healthier foods is a very great way to practice self-care. Also, it can be taking care of your happiness.
4. How do you overcome ‘mom guilt’ when you do take a few minutes to yourself?
There’s a fine line between listening to your conscious and just having guilt. Our conscious is a very good guide for us in helping us balance our lives and keeping our priorities straight. Whenever you’re feeling guilty, take an honest assessment of yourself to determine whether or not you should pay attention to those guilty feelings you are having or not. It’s OKAY to take some time for yourselves! Don’t let those ‘mom guilt’ feelings stop you from doing what you love and keeping you sane!
5. What advice would you give to moms that struggle with practicing self-care?
It’s okay to take the time for yourself to help you make it through the day. Make sure that your needs are taken care of by doing the things that bring you joy. But most importantly, make sure that you don’t have high expectations that you are going to and will always get these done. Some days you won’t, and that’s fine. Be careful to not have high expectations, because odds are they won’t always be met. Self-care can be anything from getting ready for the day, reading your favorite book, or painting, crafting, playing musical instruments, whatever you have to do that makes you happy. That is what self-care is all about! Making yourself happy!
Again I encourage you to read these amazing bloggers perspectives on self-care as a mom!
McKell, Insta @mckellwilson, Blog lifeasmrswilson.com
Aurora, Insta @auroramccausland, Blog auroramccausland.com
Mel, Insta @life.withriley, Blog mel-leblanc.com
Lauryn, Insta @laurynmc, Blog thissublimelife.com