Its OKAY To Start Young

     I definitely get some interesting comments from others not agreeing with the choices I’ve made. Most of the comments I over hear are questioning my ability to be a mother and wife. Why would they say these things? Maybe it’s because I am so young, at 20.

     It’s a good question to ask when’s a good time to start a family and have a baby. In reality, no one is really completely ready for a baby, yes you can be more prepared and in a better situation but it will be the hardest thing and most testing experience you will ever have! In society today, Most people wait to have children later in their years, which isn’t a bad thing there are pros and cons to both. But it’s also not a bad thing to choose to have a baby at a young age. Having a baby should be in prayerful and well thought out decision from you and your spouse. Being a young mom definitely has its challenges but there are more rewards then there are challenges. I wanted to start a family young, I wanted to be a young mom. And yes it was hard to hear others’ opinions about wanting a baby at a young age but in reality, their opinions about you don’t matter at all.  It’s whatever feel is right for your family. In some cases, it’s actually better to start a family younger than later. 

     I have learned so much and will continue to learn so much at a young age ever since I had my son. I’m grateful for the hard lessons I’ve learned because I have grown so much as a person, wife, and mother. I am also a stay at home mom. Lots of women nowadays continue their career while having children, which also isn’t a bad thing as well. For me, it is big deal to constantly be with my son. To personally teach him the way that I want to and to be there for him at all times through his precious moments and milestones because that’s how I grew up. That baby will be the love of your life, your heart melts at each smile and laugh. I cannot explain the love you will have like the love for your own child. Your whole motive in life completely changes and everything you do is for that baby. I love being a young mom, and if you choose to do the same, I know you will too.

How It All Started

At the beginning when I was about to get engaged I was soo nervous to announce our wedding just because, to be honest, I really did care about what people thought about me. I was scared that people would judge me because I was getting married right out of high school. Once I did, I had a really hard time with many people and their comments. In fact, a lot of people I knew and really close friends I had didn’t even come to my wedding. There were family members who didn’t agree and I especially had a hard time with that. Yeah, I did cry a lot because of the things people would say to me about getting married so young. It got to the point where I almost broke off the wedding, but my amazing husband talked some sense into me. I had to experience things the hard way before I finally learned some lessons.

1. JUST DO YOU

I don’t even need to get into detail with this one lol. Just plain and simple. You don’t need the approval of others to do what YOU want. You cannot let others change who you truly are.

2. Trust Your Judgment

When you make that decision to get married it’s very important to not let the opinions of others be the reason why you changed your mind. If you take in what everyone is saying to you it can confuse your mind and make you unsure and give you doubts. If you felt that you needed to be with the person you’re engaged to than TRUST your judgment and stick to it. If you break off your engagement just because of what people say then you really aren’t ready for marriage at all. Sorry to be so blunt but it’s true! Don’t marry the opinions of others. Just marry the one you love!

3. Your Spouse Matters More

At the end of it all, the only thing that matters in this world is just you and your spouse. Marriage is the best decision anyone can make especially if it’s with your best friend.  Everything you do is to please them and make them happy and vice versa. Again, if the opinions matter more than your loved one then your focus isn’t on marriage, it’s on yourself.  Here I am blunt again but it’s true! Marriage requires two people focused on each other not just one single focus.

Love who you want, create life when you want, do what you want, and be who you are. Life is beautiful with those who matter most.

 

5 thoughts on “Its OKAY To Start Young

  1. I didn’t know you are so young. But reading your post a ‘see’ a beautiful young lady who is mature beyond her years. The people that have shunned you are missing out. I feel sorry for them.

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  2. I love this post! I’m a young wife and mom as well! And I have loved every second of it! I couldn’t agree more with your “You do you” point, in the end I’m so grateful my husband and I have made choices together whether or not they won popular vote among family or friends. Yes I got married young, but I’m not “missing out” I’m experiencing it all with my best friend by my side, and now our little boy too. Such a fun life to live! So happy for you guys and your adorable little guy!

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    1. You’re totally right! You get to experience life with someone by your side which is so much better! So happy for your little family as well! And thanks for the support!

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  3. Thank you so much for this post. I’ve been having a rough day and me and my fiance have a similar age gap to you and your husband (he is friends with Tony). I’ve been needing to hear so many of the different things you wrote for a while as we have been finalizing wedding plans and details and getting ready to be married 🙂 Thank you

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